Kenny's Tip of the Day - Crabs in a Bucket. Don't Be One!!!!
This comes from the infamous story of catching crabs in a bucket. When you catch a crab and place him (or her) in a bucket, the first thing he'll try to do is escape. Now, if you put two crabs in a bucket (hence the plural form of 'Crabs in a Bucket') and place them both in there together, as soon as one tries to climb up and out of the bucket, the other one will grab the escaping crab by the legs and try to escape itself. Which pulls that crab back down. To which the process gets repeated to the point where NO crab ends up escaping.
How does this apply to you? Do not apply your success or lack thereof to other people in your field. You're aiming for the moon. Hopefully. Forget what others are doing or how well they're doing at it. It has nothing to do with you. And more importantly, it LIMITS your success. Because you've created this battle that shouldn't exist.
You DON'T win because someone else LOSES. You win when YOU win. And you CAN win while others win. Or lose. There is no correlation. But the negative waves you're putting out into the universe actually affects you negatively.
You're focused on the wrong thing. You're looking around at the field instead of keeping your eyes on the road. On the prize. On what YOU want to achieve.
Also, your peers can be allies. Not everyone can do every gig offered to them. So they're going to recommend you for a gig that betters fits your strength. But only if that makes sense to them. Not to mention all of the great strides you'll make by helping a fellow peer out. You can BOTH win by sharing each other's strengths.
If you're out there running down everyone else in your profession, not only are they NOT going to help you succeed. They're going to cheer your demise. Happily.
Also, being mad or angry as others achieve their goals will actually impede your progress. Happy people tend to focus or aim better at their targets. Miserable people are constantly looking for evidence to support their claim that the world is against them. This does not serve you.
Be the asset among your peers who NOT only succeeds, but sends the elevator back down for the next generation to have their chance to succeed as well.
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I hope this message finds you. Well… Kenny